Rain beat down my windshield, and red mud splattered  my car as I drove through Monument Valley in October of 2009.   The road was muddy but passable.  The thought of returning to my campsite was daunting.  It was a cold, hard rain, and I had myself and a large wet dog to care for.

Suddenly I was sobbing, I pulled off the road and I heard Mamacita (my spirit guide) say to me, “You don’t have to do it alone anymore.  All your life you have done it alone, even when in a relationship you were alone.  You always kept something back.  It’s time now…it’s time.”

I had gone to Monument Valley with my dog, Cheyenne, a tent, sleeping bag, small cook stove, lantern and other basic supplies.  I was prepared to stay twelve days, on a trip I had anticipated for months.  I knew something waited in Monument Valley, I just wasn’t sure what that something was.  While it was gorgeous during the day (sans the rain) at night it was colder than a well digger’s ass in January!  Thankfully I had brought along a down comforter, which became my sleeping pad. Cheyenne gave me a look like only a dog can, one that said, “I love you Mom, but what were you thinking?”

I had bet my friend Jim $200.00 that I would make it the full twelve days.  He insisted that I could survive the camping,  but I would miss André too much and come home.  It wasn’t so much a case of missing André, it was that I wanted to be with him and I knew in that moment through the tears, through the pain of aloneness that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.  I surrendered to love.

What I know for you is that you don’t have to do it alone anymore either.  The Truth is you are never alone, however, some days it’s hard to remember there is a loving, abundant, infinite, wise source larger than you.  Of course this source is always available, but when you are in the middle of the tsunami, or drowning in a black hole, Source seems a long, long way off.

So you beg, you plead and bargain…”dear God if you will just ____________________ I will ___________________.  Occasionally this seems to work (hopefully you express your gratitude)  until the next desperate moment. The Truth is you are not alone-EVER! Source is always there of course and so are other people!  And those other people are searching for you, to connect-to create-to grow through love.   ‘Cause when we get down to the core, love is what it’s all about, isn’t it?  Love – in the form of friends, family, even strangers who step up and help each other, even those in Spirit world.

After my recent women’s retreat I did a reading for my new friend Trish.  Her husband Aron who had died two years ago, came through to talk to her.  I’ll let Trish’s words tell the rest of the story:

“During BakeR’s reading, Aron gave me a huge bouquet of yellow daisies.  Didn’t mean anything significant to me.  Then I visited Aron’s marker at the National Cemetery for Veteran’s Day.  Yep, in front of his marker, at least 24 bushes in full bloom, of . . . yellow daisies.”  –Trish

This story gave me goose bumps and tears, and it reminded me how un-alone we truly are.  Most people are not aware how many of their loved ones who have crossed over are still with them.  You are never alone!

Remember if you are feeling alone, or if you’re living in pain, worry, frustration, anger or sadness, there is someone else who is feeling the same way.  There are a myriad of ways to connect with them…find your support group whether it be one or forty four.

  •      Search the newspaper for a list of groups and ongoing events. GET UP AND GO!
  •      Check out Yahoo groups
  •      Go to a church, synagogue, temple, ashram etc. and connect with like minded people
  •      Create a prayer group or just find a prayer partner
  •      Talk honestly with your significant other, a family member or friend – tell them how you’re feeling
  •      Help someone else-just listen…this will return ten-fold.
  •      Check out self-help books from the library…read them…a few of my favorites

“Excuse Me Your Life Is Waiting” – Lynn Grabhorn

“Loving What Is” – Byron katie

“This Thing Called You” – Ernest Holmes  (almost anything by Holmes)

“The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” – Deepak Chopra (almost anything by Chopra)

“Anam Cara” – John O’Donohue

“Return To Love” – Marianne Williamson

Hafiz or Rumi’s poetry to put a smile on your face

  • Sign up for Michael Dooley’s daily inspirational and fun thoughts of the day at www.tut.com
  • Google inspirational quotes
  • Sign up for an inspirational blog – mine or one of many others  😉
  • Join a Choir
  • Learn to dance
  • Volunteer at a food bank, a shelter, an after school program, or become a tutor
  • Borrow a kid for a fun day in the park
  • Ask your face book friends to send you a positive thought or two (send them one too)
  • Start a group with others who are going through “stuff”, meet weekly/monthly to discuss new possibilities.  Stay out of the negative “story”
  • Hang out at a local coffee shop and connect with some like-minded folks.
  • Take your dog for a walk and meet some other dog owners
  • Pet your cat
  • See your psychic and connect with friends/family in spirit world… 😉
  • Volunteer at the library, your local park or ranger station
  • Share a Thanksgiving dinner with a neighbor or friend who’s alone, or celebrate with friends at a church dinner

Get up, Get going, Connect!  Now more than ever is the time to reach out, to help one another, or to ask for help.  Yes, I know we all hate to ask for help…but guess what? It’s time! If a neighbor, a friend or family member asked for help you would be happy to assist wouldn’t you?  Then why are you so afraid to ask?  I’m seeing more and more the necessity for all of us to reach out in whatever way we can.  Mamacita says over and over again, there is no time to waste, we will all need each other in big ways.  Share your good and ask if you need help.

What better time to start than the holidays…Thanksgiving is all about sharing…the Pilgrims and the Native Americans sharing crops, food and friendship…and we recreate this celebration yearly by sharing our bounty!

Let’s give Thanks for the abundance we have, share it and multiply it! 

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

p.s.  On my wedding day I handed Jim $200, best 200 bucks I ever lost, I guess you know I came home early!

Facebookpinterestlinkedinby feather

One Response to You Don’t Have to Do It Alone Anymore!

  • BakeR, your blog was spot-on for me today. I woke early this morning from a dream in which all my “landing places” were gone… and i was alone in a new way. In the dream, I circled back to a place I had already been, and discovered that there were people there who recognized me and welcomed me. I knew that the message of the dream is to connect with like-minded people here in Okla-fuckin’-homa (as I love to call it), and that I need them as much as they need me. I am in the process of surrendering to being here, and like you were, I am resistant to give up my identity of separateness… but I have to.
    Thank you and MANY blessings to you for sharing this… I enjoy reading your blogs; you are a gifted writer and a very wise woman! Much love to you this Thanksgiving, my dear! 🙂

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.