Overcoming fear

Imagine you are in a pitch-black room,

in an unfamiliar building.

The electricity is out.

You are terrified of the dark.

You have no matches – because who smokes anymore?

Your cell phone died hours ago.

You shouted but no one came.

Anxiety is taking hold, panic is pressing in.

Every scary thought of being trapped in a dark building runs through your head in technicolor!

You hear one thing louder and louder – your heartbeat.

And then you remember that pen your friend gave you, the one from their hairstylist, with the advertisement on it.  The one that has a tiny light at the other end!

“PLEASE GOD LET ME STILL HAVE IT!  PLEASE GOD LET IT WORK!  YES, here it is!!!  OMG, it works!  Thank you, thank you, thank you!”

It’s a tiny, tiny light on the opposite end of a pen, but at this moment, it feels HUGE, doesn’t it? This tiny light can quash fears of immense proportion, light a room and change your perspective. Quite amazing!

Now imagine what your light can do in the darkness that surrounds us these days!  It is so easy to get sucked into the morass that surrounds us on a daily and hourly basis.  I won’t repeat the bad news because you already know it.  If you don’t good for you!

So HOW do we shine our Light on the Darkness?

1.     Center in your heart space – come back to your source – to your own bubble of light. Connect with Great Spirit, God, The Universe, Tao, Yahweh, whatever you call Oneness, however you best do that.  Sometimes it’s as easy as communing with nature; or taking 3-5 deep conscious breaths while being aware and grateful for life. Maybe for you, it’s saying a prayer, a ten-minute meditation, or thirty minutes of yoga.  Do it!  This is for your Health and Sanity!

2.     Turn away from the Darkness. Don’t read it, watch it or listen to it.  Turn off the news channels.  Or at the very least limit yourself to 10-20 minutes per day. I find it interesting that folks will only eat organic food yet feed their brains with hours of bad news.

3.     Send light to the dark.  If you know someone who is suffering from pain, grief, or illness send them healing energy, reiki, prayer, or positive thoughts. If you see an accident on the side of the road, send positive energy to the people involved. See light surrounding them.   Remember, what you send out returns ten times!

4.     If you must watch, listen or read bad news then send soothing energy to those areas. Fires devasting the forests? Send calm & rain.  Floods destroying property and killing people?  Send soothing energy to the rivers.  Yes, you do have the power to calm a storm!

5.     Avoid negative people – especially those who dwell on the bad news, it’s like playing in a toxic dump.

6.     Practice reframing negativity – have a touchstone for those times when you find yourself depressed or flailing in negativity (it happens). Think of a funny animal, or a funny incident, or a place of beauty that you love – something to change the negative energy. Once you switch off the negative energy then imagine the new positive result that you want to experience. An easy example is getting a new job:  Imagine yourself working in the perfect environment with people who are creative, supportive, happy, and contributing to the world in a positive way. Imagine exactly what you want to achieve in your new job.  Using all your senses, see yourself there!

Try it right now and allow yourself to experience the change you feel when you play in the positive energy of creation.  You can use this exercise for any situation in your life.

7.     Join with other folks who are positive influencers – meet together in person or over Zoom and share the Light with each other.  No bitching, whining, or complaining!  Only positivity allowed! Come together to share a Meditation, Joy, Good news, Blessings, a positive reading – get it?  Only good POSITIVE news is allowed.  One person can lead every week, or you can rotate the responsibility.  Meet weekly, bi-weekly or monthly.

8.    Practice Gratitude daily – be aware of all the good in your life. Speak it, write it, and include it in your prayers or meditations.

“Happy Hummer” by Sally Gradjian

9.  Shine your light. You may think that your light is just a tiny pin light but remember that tiny light on the end of a pen can light a room.  In fact…

YOUR LIGHT IS HUGE!

Never underestimate the power of your light to chase away the dark.   For there are many of us out here standing together.  We just have to practice, practice, practice!

Shine on!    BakeR – The Psychic Coach

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Shaman's Cave

Here’s a little video to inspire you:

Sometimes 240 degrees is enough!

 

And if you prefer to read it here’s the text:

I climbed Thorny Butte today! “Why does that deserve an exclamation mark?”, you might ask. Because, I’ve tried to climb it before and found it an almost impermeable forest of cacti and underbrush, hence the name I gave it, Thorny Butte. Yet I know that amongst the cacti are beautiful flowers, some orangey ones sprouting from the prickliest prickly pear, tiny purple and yellow ones growing right up between the spines and tall pale pink  tubular flowers under a scrubby tree. The flowers found their way, so could I.

Today I approached from the right side off an old jeep trail. There it was, a path I hadn’t noticed before, someone had gone before me cutting a path through the rock and brush. It didn’t always look like I expected it to look…there were times today when my path cut through undergrowth and over rocks, but it was still there.

There were times I thought I had lost it, but then it would appear, faintly pointing the direction I needed to go. I often questioned if I should follow the path, I was alone and  it was steep, but I asked my guides, I  listened and knew that I was safe. I trusted my inner guidance to lead me in the right direction as much as I trusted the path.

The last five feet were impenetrable, I couldn’t actually get to the top without forcing my way and I didn’t have the proper tools to make it. The view was still breathtaking even five feet from the top, I couldn’t see 360 degrees but sometimes 240 is enough!

  • Don’t give up, keep looking for your path, it may be around the next bend.
  • It’s okay to follow in another’s footsteps if you can’t find the way.
  • Don’t forget what goes up has to come down, save some energy for the descent.
  • Trust your inner GPS.
  • Be grateful for those who came before!

Namaste, BakeR 

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I used to hate Mormons.  No, seriously, as the past State Coordinator of the National Organization for Women, Mormons were my nemesis.

I debated them, picketed their temple and even made fun of their beliefs.  I was certain that everything I was for they were against, and everything I was against they were for.  I knew that all the men were racist bigots and kept their multiple wives locked up at home barefoot and pregnant.  And I even met some Mormon men who did treat their wives like that.

In 2003,  a few months after my 50th birthday party,  a casual friend was passing hateful propaganda about Muslims on email.  Propaganda that claimed that all Muslims take a vow to kill us.  It went on and on, I’m sure some of you saw it.  I wrote this woman and told her that not all Muslims are hateful killers, that indeed she may have held hands with the Muslim couple that were at my birthday party as we sang “Let There Be Peace On Earth”.   I told her that this couple are beautiful, fun, peace loving people just like we are.  I told her that radical, hateful extremists can be found in almost every religion be they Christian, Muslim, Hindu etc. and every country from France to Russia to Pakistan to the USA.   I reminded her that some Christians in this country bombed abortion clinics – sometimes wounding and killing people.  She wrote back and apologized saying she had never known any of “them” (Muslims) and that she had believed all the awful diatribe about “them”.  Our conversation ended peacefully.

Yet even after that incident, until about a year ago,  I would have claimed that Mormons were my nemesis.  That indeed I knew that “they” were against everything I believed in and vice versa.

And then I met a beautiful and faithful Mormon woman.   A woman who is spiritual, metaphysical, peaceful, who  believes that loving service is the top priority in her life’s mission.  A woman who goes to drum circles with me, who shares Reiki healing, who helped me pack my house for a big move, a woman who loves movies, crystals, chocolate and her family, who regularly attends temple and has a deep belief in God.  A woman who spent hours sending Reiki healing to my dog — who has become one of my best friends.  A woman who shattered every myth I held about Mormons, including that they are all Republicans.

And I had to face my fears – my deep seated beliefs about “them”.  I had to step up and recognize that when I put anyone in the “them” slot, the different than me slot, I contribute to the separation that causes hatred and violence.  When I fail to meet someone and know them as another human being, regardless of their race, creed, religion, gender, sexual orientation, political affiliation or any other differences, I contribute to the imbalance.  I contribute to dishonoring another human. And I dishonor myself in the process.

In the many years that I worked seven days a week for women’s rights, for gay rights, for equality for all, I remember the people who met me and said, “You don’t look like one of them”.  And yet haven’t I said the same?

When I look at anyone different than me in any way and pass judgment based on those assumptions , I give up my chance to know the real person, to relate to another human being at a deeper level…the level where love exists.  For at the core of the majority of humans,  I believe there is infinite light, I believe there is powerful love and forgiveness.  I believe that most of us are good – that we want peace – that we care about each other.  I believe when we take the time to go beyond our judgments, our assumptions and yes our expectations, that we will find another human being who wants the same things we do, who desires love, peace and freedom.

I commit to reach out to “them” the next time.  I commit to take the time to learn who “they” are.

And I commit to remember,  when I point a finger at someone else there are three pointing back at me!

Namaste, BakeR

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Today I found myself worrying about compensation.  Actually my ego self was worried.  Am I enough – will I make enough?  Was the reading good – good enough?

My ego self says, “show me the money”, as if that is the only way to measure my self worth.  My spiritual self  is always certain that indeed I am enough – I AM good enough.  I am always fully supported.  My ego needs the compliments and glowing emails that clients send.  My ego is fear based it needs to be fed.  My spiritual self feels the deep connection in the moment and knows that the true gift is leading a client to understanding, helping them  hear the Truth, or maybe connect with a loved one on the other side.  My spiritual self  is Love.

While I was in worry, all I could see was more fear.  When Mamacita stepped in and slapped me around a little I was able to turn my self to the Truth, to see the light and to focus on my good.  As I refocused on my service, 0n my joy in being of service and why I am really here, the phone rang – a client booking a session for tomorrow – of course!

Keeping my focus on gratitude and being of service empowers me and ultimately you.  As I step into grace it radiates out and touches all those around me.  When you step into grace, into gratitude it radiates out and touches all those around you!

Are you out of touch with your Truth?  Out of balance?  How much time do you spend in fear or worry?

How much time do you spend in gratitude, service or joy?

Do you think to be grateful for all you are?

Are you grateful for your body? For the utensils that allow you to eat? For the chair you sit in?  For a computer that workd with no expectation of thanks?

Take a moment now to sit in gratitude – find at least five things that you don’t normally think to be grateful for:

  • Shoes
  • The cardinals song
  • The men working in the hot sun on the electrical lines down my street
  • Healers – especially chiropractors today!
  • Can openers

Your Turn:

Make a commitment to yourself to practice gratitude throughout your day…it is the single most important step to changing your life!

Namaste, BakeR

All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence. 
 — Martin Luther King Jr.

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Is there some BOLDVIBRANT,  OR OUTRAGEOUS deed you can’t wait to try?

Here’s an interesting career! The mannequin not the phone booth. 

Maybe you want to:

  • Become a politician
  • Start a new business – make your own economy!
  • Become a clown
  • Write a book
  • Go back to school
  • Start a new career
  • Sail around the world
  • Start a Drum Circle (this may be mine, anyone interested?)
  • Teach kids of any age how to dance, sing,  create, grow, stand on their heads
  • Create a community garden

The world is waiting for you — but it won’t wait for long — trust me, there is someone right behind you ready to step into your place. There are millions of people who have taken their creative ideas and made something of them.  Right now in Africa or Afghanistan or the United States there is a woman or man who has decided enough is enough and they are going to make the changes necessary to live their dream.

Marianne Williamson told us, “Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.”  She continues, “And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”

Tomorrow you will be one day older, without having lived your dream!  The time is now — maybe 2012 really will be catastrophic — do you want to die without ever having done IT, whatever IT is?

Remember what fear is?

False Emotions Appearing Real

Ask yourself:

  • What is holding me back?     The usual excuses are lack of time or money, but the Truth is  — underlying all that is FEAR.
  • What do I want to bring to my life?  What is the purpose for creating something new in my life?     Maybe you want to create excitement, adventure, peace, love, friends, fulfillment, success, joy, giving, passion, gratitude, you fill in the blank.
  • How much fulfillment, joy, passion, etc. am I REALLY willing to experience?

Next:

  • Acknowledge what is great and wonderful in your life.
  • List all your talents that will support the NEW you.
  • Be grateful for all the good – what riches do you already possess?

Consider the gift you want  to give your children, friends and family.  When you step out in a Big way and make it happen,  you inspire those around you to do and be anything they desire.  With your shining example You  inspire them to dream big and go for it!

Making yourself small serves no one,   PLAY BIG!   WHEN YOU EMPOWER YOURSELF, YOU EMPOWER EVERYONE AROUND YOU!

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