Recently I realized that I still have insidious worms in my head. They writhe around, mushing my brain into slimy toxic waste! My fear based ego loves them, it feeds them regularly, giving them special treats so they can get bigger and fatter. GROSS!!!
For years, instead of knowing the Truth for myself, I have allowed the worms to eat away at who I really am. I allowed them to create my stories.
When I got lovingly honest with myself I came up with these insidious worms (stories) and the fodder the ego feeds them:
I am afraid of success. Yep, you should be, if you get really successful you won’t have any privacy, you’ll be gone all the time and your husband won’t love you anymore.
I am a procrastinator. Maybe, but you could miss something really important on Facebook.
I am afraid of failure. Damn straight, it hurts to fail!
I am not a good writer. Seriously have you read John O’Donohue? That’s a good writer, you are a hack with a couple of ideas.
Mamacita answers other peoples’ questions, but not mine. Mamacita has much more important issues to deal with than your whiny stuff. She’s not supposed to help you, just others.
With all the people I have taught these principles, why don’t I put them into action? No kidding, you must be unteachable.
The truth is these are all just stories I have been telling myself for eons. No matter what my “story” of the day is, I can change the ending. For instance, I used to have” victim consciousness” because my father sexually abused me for years. I lived from that “victim conscious” for a good part of my life, until I realized that I didn’t have to live there anymore. I healed that wound and changed my life. Now that I know I can heal something that big, I can surely heal being afraid of success or failure, or stop procrastinating, or listen to Mamacita, or practice what I teach.
It’s as simple as withholding the worms fodder and feeding my brain and psyche some new material, such as:
I am successful. I am in control of my time, my life is balanced
I choose to complete my marketing and then write or read.
I love failure, it’s one step closer to finding the correct way or the genius answer.
I practice, practice, practice my writing. I love sharing my ideas through my writing.
Mamacita and my other guides are always available for me, they love helping me.
As I teach others these principles I learn them myself. I am completely honest with myself.
All those stories we tell ourselves, they’re just worms! We can eradicate the worms, if we will just stop feeding them!
Let’s ask ourselves right now:
What are the stories I tell myself?
What do I need to release to change a particular story?
Changing my thinking and my perspective, how do I create my new story?
How can I put the new story into action?
If something is hard it’s because we are out of integrity. We must ask ourselves, “Where am I not being true to myself?”
I am going to be in integrity with myself, eradicate the worms and watch how easy it gets. No matter what the story, with a new perspective, I CAN change it – I can change the ending.
If you know someone who could benefit from reading this in any way please share it with them. In fact I’m going to be really BOLD here and ask you to please share this message with at least one person, Thank You!
Here’s my BIG announcement….drum roll please!
Once again Mamacita leads me down a new path!
I have been given an incredible opportunity to manage a new wellness center right here in Uptown Sedona along with the founders. They are beautiful, loving lights who are creating a gorgeous space, which will be dedicated to promoting emotional, physical, mental and spiritual wellness. We will open Labor Day weekend and I am thrilled to be starting this new adventure! Until then, YES, I am still available for private sessions-readings, coaching and reiki here in Sedona, by phone, Skype or FaceTime.
Please contact me for your appointment as my time is limited:
I will continue to do my sessions at the new center when we open and will send details as we progress.
Connect with Spirit
Several years ago when I first became a Reiki practitioner I went to my teacher, Laurelle Gaia, and asked her if she ever got bored doing Reiki. I had just done my first long session and found myself drifting away. Fortunately she didn’t smack me, she just answered with a resounding “NO”.
I walked away with my tail between my legs to think about it.
Usually the time flew by when I was working with a client, but occasionally I would find myself counting the minutes. The next time that I got bored, I checked in to find out what was going on. What I realized was that I was disconnected from Spirit, I wasn’t channeling Reiki energy; I was in ego and when I’m in ego I can’t channel anything. My ego self had to get out of the way and allow Spirit’s healing energy to channel through me. As soon as I remembered that Spirit does the work through me, I reconnected and I don’t get “bored” anymore. Just the other day I did back to back hour long Reiki sessions for six different people without any boredom. Six hours of Reiki and never a second of disconnection! In fact the only issue I have now is going over the allotted time, because my ego self is completely gone when Spirit takes over. The really cool thing is I don’t need a car to drive home anymore, I just float! LOL
This a perfect metaphor for my life. Whenever my ego self gets in the way I lose touch with Spirit and find it hard to get the Truth for myself. The disconnection also happens when I get too busy, I will find myself looking “out there” for answers instead of going within for the Truth. My fear based ego still believes it has all the answers and fights to keep me under control. Yet, the answers that will truly serve my highest and best good come from that quiet place within, where Spirit, my guides and my higher self reside. As long as I take the time and make the space to get connected the answers are there.
If you have issues with meditation or hearing your answers it’s likely that your ego gets in the way. Isn’t it your ego that thinks it has too much to do to be still and meditate? Isn’t it your ego that creates “monkey mind”, all those busy thoughts that spin around and around distracting you from your inner wisdom?
When do you get disconnected from the wisdom of your higher self, guides and Spirit? How can you connect today? To receive all the gifts Spirit has to offer carve out some time and space to truly connect with your inner wisdom. Give yourself the gift of connection, the gift of peace and the gift of wisdom.
Love and joy, BakeRby
Love Your Guides!
Have you ever gone to an enlightening and illuminating spiritual retreat where you felt completely connected to your guides, angels and animal totems? Where you experienced visions or intense feelings, heard voices or experienced Kundalini awakenings? But then you went home and you wondered why the angels, guides and totems deserted you. Where the heck did they go? Why were you so connected at the retreat but not at home?
At the retreat you opened up to the energies and played in the mystical realm. You rode the wave of expansion created by the synchronistic energy of a group of people coming together to learn, experience and practice new skills, creating an intense level of awareness. Your focus and energy were completely centered on learning these new skills; there were no distractions. But alas you had to go home, chop wood, carry water, pay bills, cook, clean and maybe even find time to work your day job.
Well that’s just great, but how can you create the same connection with your guides at home?
Practice, practice, practice. Yes, practice your connection. Create time to spend with your guides. Like a relationship with a good friend (which they are) you must nurture that relationship. The more you connect with them, the more you will learn from them and the easier it will be to connect. If you can carve out time for a Starbucks coffee, or to watch the latest series on Netflix you can make time to work with your guides. Find ten minutes (longer if possible) a day to sit in quiet and invite them in.
Create a sacred space – A small altar with a candle, crystals, rocks, feathers, icons, any items that help you create the mood to sit quietly and connect. It might be just a special chair in the corner by a sunny window. This is where you sit when your intention is to connect with spirits, guides, animal totems, fairies, or angels. It is your own private vortex, where the energy feels right.
When I’m doing private readings at home I sit in my red rocker instead of at my desk. I can connect with my guides when I’m sitting at my desk, but the rocker feels better. A bead and feather dance necklace from Peru decorates the wall, a brass Buddha that’s been with me for forty plus years sits amongst labradorite, spirit stone, clear quartz, selenite, rocks, shells and a crow wing that I found at West Fork trail head. My grandmothers yarn basket with a few small balls of yarn sits at my feet. These things move and are replaced at will but the space always feels just right. It’s my special place to talk with my earthly and spiritual friends. Some days I play music other days I don’t. There are no particular items you should or must include in your sacred space, use the items that help you feel a connection with spirit world. It can be completely barren white walls if that is what calls to you.
Your guides are friends; treat them as such. Call on them in good times and bad. Send gratitude for the light they bring to your life, ask them to intervene, to play the muse, to walk with you, to laugh with you, to create with you.
Like friends, the guides love to hear from you. When they know they are important to you they will share guidance and information. Don’t always expect big flashy fireworks, loud voices or a knock on the head. Their presence is usually more like a chill up your spine, hair raising goose bumps on your arms, a quiet whispering “why don’t you try that path”, knowing the correct street to turn on, that old song on the radio that speaks to you, or a friend calling at exactly the moment you thought of them.
Trust these subtle gifts, your guides are touching you, talking to you or maybe sending your human friend to help. Remember too that we all connect with different “clairs”, you may be clairaudient, clairvoyant, clairsentient, clairgustant, clairtangent, clairscent or a combination of some or all of these. Get quiet – remove all the distractions, silence or turn off the phone, close the computer screen and listen or feel. Be aware of the subtle ways they communicate and encourage them, let them know you hear/feel/see them
You will find that when your guides really want your attention they will demand it in not so subtle ways. Once I asked whether it was for my highest and best good to continue in a primary relationship. I said, “if the answer is yes I want to see two ravens fly over, if the answer is no, just one raven should fly over.” Standing on a mountain in southern Arizona where ravens are numerous, I knew this was possible. As I sat and meditated a lone raven flew over and did a spiral dance right over my head. In my infinite wisdom I decided that was a coincidence. Yeah right, a raven doing a spiral dance right over my head was a coincidence! I was really resisting this answer and my ego gave me a perfect rationalization.
The story gets better, as I drove home I saw a lone raven fly off a tree on the left side of the road; he landed in the middle of the road right in front of my car and strutted around like he was king of the road. Needless to say, I had to stop and watch this little parade or slaughter the king.
But my guides still weren’t done with me. Around a half mile later another raven flew from the right side of the road and again landed on the road in front of my car, looking right at me. Wow, really? Granted I was only going about 25 MPH on this long dirt road, but never in my life had a glossy black raven landed on the road in front of my car. It took me another year or so to end the relationship (back then I was a slow learner) but I’ve never forgotten those stunning ravens. By the way, I knew it was time to end the relationship, this was just a very strong confirmation that I needed to take the necessary steps. I stopped that day and gave thanks for the guidance, but as always I had free will to follow through or not.
Your guides are there for you always, in all ways. Do you want to spend time with them? Then just do it. Get quiet, go in and invite them to be with you. Thank them for their time and send love and light back to them.
May your days be filled with love, guidance and connection with your spiritual friends,
Please tell me how you love your guides in the comments below…many blessings!by
Many of you are empaths…because of this you are easily attacked by troubled spirits and even the negative energy of those you are in close contact with. If you work with someone who is negative and you go home tired and drained, if you go to the mall and it feels like an attack, if you work in an area where there are lots of spirits crossing over (hospitals, hospice, etc.) and you don’t know how to deal with the emotions, you are probably an empath. Empaths pick up others emotions, we can be deeply affected by others negativity. It’s very important that you learn how to protect yourself.
Here is a quick video that explains very simply how to do this for yourself. For empaths it’s best if you do this every morning.
Click here for the video Protect yourself from troubled spirits or troubled people
Crystals that are good for protection
Black tourmaline, jet, obsidian and smoky quartz are all good for keeping negative energies away. .Malachite draws the negative entities out of the system. Amber is excellent for healing and it’s gentle energy is perfect to use for teething babies. Cat’s Eye dispels negative energy. Pyrite protects the subtle and physical bodies. Jasper absorbs negative energy. Kunzite works on the individual and environment. Labradorite brings light which dispels the darkness of the negative energies. And my new personal favorite Tibetan Black Quartz.
According to Naisha Ahsian in “The Book of Stones”: Tibetan Black Quartz brings to the aura an energy like a flashlight in the dark. Their frequency acts as a psychic ‘window wash’, clearing debris from the energetic field and allowing more Light to fill the aura. As the Light permeates the energetic field, the aura expands and strengthens, creating a ‘non-force’ field of Light around one’s physical body. The ‘non-force’ field illuminates all that it touches, bringing Light and consciousness to any environment. In a sense, these stones make you a carrier of their energy, and you spread wherever you go.
And isn’t this what we all want a ‘non-force’ field of Light around our physical body?
Have a Light filled day! Namaste, BakeRby
Here’s a little video to inspire you:
And if you prefer to read it here’s the text:
I climbed Thorny Butte today! “Why does that deserve an exclamation mark?”, you might ask. Because, I’ve tried to climb it before and found it an almost impermeable forest of cacti and underbrush, hence the name I gave it, Thorny Butte. Yet I know that amongst the cacti are beautiful flowers, some orangey ones sprouting from the prickliest prickly pear, tiny purple and yellow ones growing right up between the spines and tall pale pink tubular flowers under a scrubby tree. The flowers found their way, so could I.
Today I approached from the right side off an old jeep trail. There it was, a path I hadn’t noticed before, someone had gone before me cutting a path through the rock and brush. It didn’t always look like I expected it to look…there were times today when my path cut through undergrowth and over rocks, but it was still there.
There were times I thought I had lost it, but then it would appear, faintly pointing the direction I needed to go. I often questioned if I should follow the path, I was alone and it was steep, but I asked my guides, I listened and knew that I was safe. I trusted my inner guidance to lead me in the right direction as much as I trusted the path.
The last five feet were impenetrable, I couldn’t actually get to the top without forcing my way and I didn’t have the proper tools to make it. The view was still breathtaking even five feet from the top, I couldn’t see 360 degrees but sometimes 240 is enough!
- Don’t give up, keep looking for your path, it may be around the next bend.
- It’s okay to follow in another’s footsteps if you can’t find the way.
- Don’t forget what goes up has to come down, save some energy for the descent.
- Trust your inner GPS.
- Be grateful for those who came before!
To tap into that inner GPS and much more, join me for the upcoming Dance in the Light women’s retreat June 6-9th here in exquisite Sedona. Click here for all the details.by
When I was first working with Mamacita, my spirit guide, she told me to purchase a Silver Bullet travel trailer and go travel around the country. I was stunned and confused at this advice because I don’t particularly like to travel…at least not that kind of travel. I prefer to go somewhere and stay put for two weeks, get to know the locals, walk everywhere and relax. The thought of traveling around, a day here, a couple of days there, sounded like my version of hell.
After a few days of angst I finally said “NO”. I then asked Mamacita what on earth she was thinking and why she would tell me to do something that was so revolting to me. Mamacita in her infinite wisdom told me that she wanted me to learn how to say NO. That it didn’t matter who told me to do something, Jesus, Buddha, the angels or her, if it wasn’t right for me I could say NO! This was huge for me, and I knew that if she had just told me I could do this it wouldn’t have had the same impact. I needed to go through that trial to really assimilate the lesson.
When you’re hearing the wisdom of your Spirit Guides it is:
- It resonates with your Truth
- It speaks to your heart instead of your ego
- It may challenge you
- It feels right
- And you can say NO if it doesn’t fit for you
If the guidance does not fit these parameters ask again. Check with your guides that you are hearing correctly, sit with them and take the time to understand. If you do not get an answer when you ask, that is an answer. No answer means you need to reflect more and maybe ask again in a few days. Or possibly you aren’t supposed to do anything right now.
Remember to surrender, let go and get out of your own way. The answer will come. Ask yourself, “Is this forced?”. If it feels forced at all take a step back and check again. It’s okay to wait for the truth.
Apparently I didn’t completely learn the lesson because about two years ago I got a message to give one of my rings to a client. A ring I really loved! After some back and forth I gave her the ring but never felt right about it. I was angry and frustrated when I came home and then I realized that an entity I had removed from a client earlier that day had attached to me. It was this nasty entity that told me to give the ring to my client. How did I finally know that? The decision wasn’t right for me, I felt bad and I was mad as hell that I had done this stupid thing. If I had followed my Truth I would never have allowed that nasty entity to influence me like that. I could have said NO and sent the ring later if I was still getting this guidance. Believe me I definitely learned the lesson of saying NO, that fateful day!
Clearing the entity is another story for another day, just please understand that you can always say NO, even to your guides (especially to a nasty entity posing as your guide). Follow your Truth!
If you would like to learn more about working with guides, clearing nasty entities, healing past lives, playing with energy and much, much more, join me at the upcoming Dance in the Light women’s retreat, June 6-9, 2014, here in Sedona, AZ. For all the details click here Dance in the Light.by
Thanks for your love and support in 2012! What an amazing year it was…lots of our friends and family left us, there were enormous energy shifts and if you’re reading this you survived.
If like me the beginning of 2013 has been great, then just know that it will continue this year. Create it now through your thoughts,word and actions. Choose loving thoughts, positive, affirming words and extraordinary actions. Remember to include yourself in the mix…who is your best friend? YOU ARE! If you are saying words to yourself that you wouldn’t say to a friend, your child, an animal or a grocery store clerk then why would you abuse yourself in that way? This is the day, the month and the year that you can choose to recreate your experience and it begins with your thoughts.
Just for fun I decided to share some FAQ’s – frequently asked questions about my practice and Mamacita. Here goes:
Do you (BakeR) remember what Mamacita says in your readings?
–Sometimes I remember snippets of the reading. If I remembered all the readings my head would explode — ewww BakeR brains all over the sidewalk…not pretty!
Do you “read” people when you’re just out walking around or when you meet someone?
—No, never, see above, my brain would explode. And it’s out of integrity, it would be as invasive as me walking into your home uninvited. Be wary of any psychic who “reads” you uninvited. That said, I am an empath and can usually tell how you’re feeling or if someone is going to want a reading. Besides I don’t really want to know what you think of me!
Isn’t it better not to ask questions when I get a reading?
–Not necessarily! If you are looking for very general information then don’t ask any questions. However, if you want guidance on a particular area of your life, then definitely come with questions. Let’s say your relationship is on the rocks, you might ask “What can I do to work this out?” Or “Is this relationship over?” Very often I think I should call Mamacita the Psychic Coach; she is very good at helping you see what needs to be done in a current situation. Or you can ask, “am I on the right _____path?” career, spiritual, life etc.
Can you always contact spirits on the other side?
–About 90% of the time they come through but I can never guarantee that. It’s always up to the spirit, sometimes they are off doing other things. It’s usually helpful for you to be thinking of them, keep a picture out for a few days, and even ask them to come through for you.
Are my family members together in spirit world?
—Sometimes but it’s different in spirit world for everyone. And there don’t seem to be those “needs” whether emotional or physical like we have here in the physical plane. Your Mom and Dad may choose to hang out together or not. If not there isn’t any pain around that choice.
How can you tell that a spirit is stuck (not completely in the light)?
—Most of the time I see them or feel that they are not free. It’s not a horrible place they’re in but it’s not the best place either. They just need a little help crossing over. I have helped hundreds of spirits cross over. It is one of the greatest gifts of my work to see their faces when they go to the light. In most of the cases I have witnessed so far, the spirit that is stuck died traumatically, confused and sometimes in great fear. They don’t understand what happened, where they are going and what will happen when they get there.
My own father was one of the first spirits I helped to cross over, through and with Ann Albers, one of my mentors. At the time I was a fairly new client of Ann. Dad had been stuck for years! He was afraid that God would send him to hell or punish him for what he had done to me, my brothers and others while here in the physical realm. I said, “Dad, if I can forgive you, why do you think God wouldn’t?” He laughed and said, “You always were smarter than me.” Ann and I kept trying to get him to cross over, telling him he was safe but he kept resisting. Finally I said, “Dad I need you to go.” To this day I have no idea why I said those words, but it worked, off he went into the beautiful, radiant light. Ann told me the angels had taken him back to childhood to bask in love and heal.
**There are psychics in Sedona and probably elsewhere who charge additional money to cross over spirits, that is their choice. When I do a reading for you and we find someone who has not crossed over, we will either clear it in that session or I go back in later and help them. It is an honor for me to do this work and this is one way I can give back.
How can you help me clear an issue from a past life?
—If you have an issue in this life time that is holding you back, a challenge that you have worked on in different healing modalities, or a block to your forward movement, often it is actually a past life issue that you came in with. When you ask Mamacita about it, we scan your body to see where you’re holding it, then look back at past lives to determine when, where and what happened. If it’s from a past life, it’s a cellular memory, which is why it won’t usually be in your conscious awareness. After Mamacita determines where it came from she will help you clear it or coach you in how to clear it yourself. Often she wants you to clear the issue because it can be a powerful step in your own growth, learning how to use your gifts and take responsibility for your healing.
Why don’t you take people to the popular vortex sites on your sacred land tours?
—Actually I will take you to a few of the vortex sites if that’s what you really want. I prefer to take you to my own little “private vortex site” for a few reasons. Most of you that I work with are way beyond what the typical tourist is looking for. The vortex sites on the maps are overrun with tourists looking for a quick woowoo experience. (nothing wrong with this, just not my preference) I take you to a quiet, secluded vortex (about a 20 min. hike in) where we do deep work with guided meditation and a reading on the land, finishing higher up the mountain creating and setting intentions. It’s a powerful couple of hours.
Please feel free to ask more questions below in the comment section….I will do my best to answer them whether you want to work with me or another psychic/intuitive.
Just for today, live every minute to the fullest! love and blessings, BakeR
If you are ready to take your own healing gifts to the next level, join us at the upcoming Dance in the Light – Women’s Retreat, May 31-June 1st in Sedona. Detailed information: http://thepsychiccoach.net/services/retreats-workshops/dance-in-the-light/
Upcoming group readings: 10:00 am on the following Saturdays, April 27, May 25, June 22, July 20 and August 17, 2013 at Peace Place, 355 Jordan Road, Sedona.by
Steadily Cheyenne (my dog) and I climbed the Soldiers Pass Trail, we rounded the corner and there were the Seven Sacred Pools. On this hot, dusty day there was no water in the pools. I sat and meditated for awhile, Cheyenne made friends and shared treats with a tiny dog named Zippy and rested in the shade of a scrub pine. As we headed back down the trail we encountered two women who had some questions. The louder of the two demanded to know how far the sacred pools were. I assured her the sacred pools were just around the next corner. She asked if there was water in the pools.
“Not this time of year”, I replied.
“Are you serious? I can’t believe we hiked all this way and there’s no water. Crap, they could have told us.”
“Who could have told you?”
“The people who suggested this trail, they could have told us there was no water in the pools.”
They stomped off to go see the “dry sacred pools”.
As I walked away I had to laugh, I wanted to turn back and say something sarcastic like, “Gee I’m sorry you haven’t seen any beauty today.” But instead I practiced sending loving energy. All around these two women were some of the most incredible, majestic red rock mountains, canyons and intense blue sky. About 1/8 of a mile away they would have hiked past Devil’s Sink Hole, a huge naturally formed sink hole. They had hiked from Jordan Road which meant they had been on several of the best trails in Sedona! What I realized was in their search for the “Seven Sacred Pools” they had likely missed the sacredness on their journey.
It reminded me of the weekend I went to a Women’s Spiritual Retreat outside of Tucson. On Saturday morning the leader told us to go out on the land and find our sacred spot. There we were to draw a circle to sit within and meditate. Prior to this I had a phone call from a client. He was very upset, demanding to know what I was doing to sell his home, what was my plan and where was I anyway. One of my better clients, we had become friends as well as business associates. He had never treated me this way and I was shocked, embarrassed, hurt and frustrated. I contemplated returning home early from the retreat. I chose to do my meditation and then decide if I would go home.
As I walked the land looking for my “sacred spot” I was lost in worry about my client. The conversation played over and over in my head, fretting and fuming I stomped along. Suddenly I heard the unmistakable sound of a rattlesnake. Similar to the sound of a locust, once you’ve heard a mad rattler you recognize the difference. I stopped in my tracks and looked around to determine its location. There about one foot in front of me, at the base of a large Saguaro was a coiled rattler, but she was the strangest looking rattler I’ve ever seen. Pale peach in color with light diamonds on her back she was an Albino, pretty rare even in rattlesnake country. I’m not afraid of snakes and rattlers are not particularly aggressive, so I backed up a step or two and asked her if she had a message for me. “BE HERE NOW!” ‘Be here now’?, I questioned. And then I got it. Wrapped up in my worry over the client, I was mentally and emotionally back in Scottsdale. My body may have been in the desert but my mind and heart were not.
The sacred experience I was searching for had been preempted by my worry and concern. Had I taken one more unaware step I would have most likely been struck by the rattlesnake. I thanked the Albino rattlesnake for her wisdom, came back into my body and moved on to find my sacred spot by the creek. For the rest of the weekend I practiced “Being here now”, enjoying the sacred circle, community meals, sweat lodge, beautiful music and songs, and my own deep communion with Spirit.
I hold the lesson of the rattlesnake in very high regard and think of her often when I succumb to worry or frustration.
- How much time do you waste on worry?
- How much time do you waste on making up negative stories?
- Have there been times you missed the sacred moment because your focus was elsewhere?
- What are sacred moments for you?
- How can you have more sacred moments?
- What can you use to remind you to be here now?
- If only for today, how can you BE HERE NOW?
- I invite you to gift yourself at least one sacred moment or minute or hour per day. YOU DESERVE IT! Spirit lives to gift you sacred moments every day!
Join me November 11-13 at my Radical Healing Women’s Retreat – Come as an Abused Woman, Leave an Empowered Woman!by
When I was first working with Mamacita she told me one day that I should get a silver travel trailer and travel around the country. I actually contemplated this for a couple of weeks…what the heck could she be thinking? I don’t even particularly like to travel, at least not that kind of travel. I like to immerse myself in a community, get to know the people, walk the streets, explore, eat local food, stay in one place for a couple of weeks. But travel around from place to place with not only myself but a large dog and cat in a silver bullet? I just wasn’t seeing this possibility.
I relayed this story to another psychic, her reply was, “oh Mamacita is a trickster!” “A trickster?”, I asked. “Why would Mamacita play tricks on me?” I was absolutely shocked that Mamacita would do this to me. My spirit guide would try to trick me. What?? I didn’t understand how she could do that. Couldn’t I trust her above all? What I later realized through counseling with Mamacita was that she wanted me to learn how to discern what MY truth was, no matter who told me to do something. She taught me to discern between my hearts true desire and someone else’s agenda. She taught me to discern between what fit’s my vision and when my ego needed to be stroked or inflated.
This would serve me well in later years when I was asked to work with a client who clearly needed a therapist, not a coach. My ego self was just sure I could help – that I could “save” this woman. Number one rule in my business – I don’t “save” anyone. Spirit works through me to guide people to their own answers, with questions and sometimes wise suggestions. But it’s not me – it’s my higher self – connecting with their higher self. As soon as I fall into the savior trap I know I’m in ego and it’s time to back away! This then was another clear indication of a trickster moment, only this time the trickster was my ego. Another test, thankfully I passed.
Where or when in your life do you get fooled by your ego self? When do you feel challenged to stand in your Truth?
Often when I make a decision coming from ego, it is fraught with fear…fear is the root cause, and consequently it will usually end badly one way or another. Recently I allowed a woman who called late morning on a Sunday to make an appointment for that afternoon because she was only in town for the day from Phoenix. This clearly does not fit my vision as I have chosen NOT to work on Sundays. Instead of asking the proper questions my ego asked, What if she decides to become a coaching client and wants to work with me long term? Wouldn’t it behoove me to work with her just this one Sunday? So I rearranged my day, sent my husband away, put the animals in their respective rooms and waited for the client. Ten minutes before she was scheduled to show up the phone rang, she was canceling!
When I disrespect myself and my vision, I attract people who disrespect me. This decision clearly came from fear, I’m building a new business, therefore sometimes I think I must do anything and everything to make that happen, even when it goes against my truth/my vision. It may seem like a small waver to work on a Sunday and sometimes it is justifiable if I’m working with a client who respects me and my time. But I knew almost immediately that this wasn’t going to happen. Everything about it felt forced!
Here are some questions to ask yourself when you are trying to make a decision:
- Does this serve my higher purpose?
- Does this fit my vision? (if you don’t have a vision, that may be the first step)
- Am I coming from heart or from ego?
- Will this bring me joy? Peace? Satisfaction?
- Does it serve the community, my clients, the world?
- Am I forcing it?
Mamacita would tell you to go within and ask – that you and only you have the answer. Trust your inner knowing. If your decision doesn’t “feel” right, if you feel like you’re forcing it, then you probably need to step back. Stop, take a look at your answers above and really check in with your heart self to find the truth.
Your true answer is found within!
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Rain beat down my windshield, and red mud splattered my car as I drove through Monument Valley in October of 2009. The road was muddy but passable. The thought of returning to my campsite was daunting. It was a cold, hard rain, and I had myself and a large wet dog to care for.
Suddenly I was sobbing, I pulled off the road and I heard Mamacita (my spirit guide) say to me, “You don’t have to do it alone anymore. All your life you have done it alone, even when in a relationship you were alone. You always kept something back. It’s time now…it’s time.”
I had gone to Monument Valley with my dog, Cheyenne, a tent, sleeping bag, small cook stove, lantern and other basic supplies. I was prepared to stay twelve days, on a trip I had anticipated for months. I knew something waited in Monument Valley, I just wasn’t sure what that something was. While it was gorgeous during the day (sans the rain) at night it was colder than a well digger’s ass in January! Thankfully I had brought along a down comforter, which became my sleeping pad. Cheyenne gave me a look like only a dog can, one that said, “I love you Mom, but what were you thinking?”
I had bet my friend Jim $200.00 that I would make it the full twelve days. He insisted that I could survive the camping, but I would miss André too much and come home. It wasn’t so much a case of missing André, it was that I wanted to be with him and I knew in that moment through the tears, through the pain of aloneness that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I surrendered to love.
What I know for you is that you don’t have to do it alone anymore either. The Truth is you are never alone, however, some days it’s hard to remember there is a loving, abundant, infinite, wise source larger than you. Of course this source is always available, but when you are in the middle of the tsunami, or drowning in a black hole, Source seems a long, long way off.
So you beg, you plead and bargain…”dear God if you will just ____________________ I will ___________________. Occasionally this seems to work (hopefully you express your gratitude) until the next desperate moment. The Truth is you are not alone-EVER! Source is always there of course and so are other people! And those other people are searching for you, to connect-to create-to grow through love. ‘Cause when we get down to the core, love is what it’s all about, isn’t it? Love – in the form of friends, family, even strangers who step up and help each other, even those in Spirit world.
After my recent women’s retreat I did a reading for my new friend Trish. Her husband Aron who had died two years ago, came through to talk to her. I’ll let Trish’s words tell the rest of the story:
“During BakeR’s reading, Aron gave me a huge bouquet of yellow daisies. Didn’t mean anything significant to me. Then I visited Aron’s marker at the National Cemetery for Veteran’s Day. Yep, in front of his marker, at least 24 bushes in full bloom, of . . . yellow daisies.” –Trish
This story gave me goose bumps and tears, and it reminded me how un-alone we truly are. Most people are not aware how many of their loved ones who have crossed over are still with them. You are never alone!
Remember if you are feeling alone, or if you’re living in pain, worry, frustration, anger or sadness, there is someone else who is feeling the same way. There are a myriad of ways to connect with them…find your support group whether it be one or forty four.
- Search the newspaper for a list of groups and ongoing events. GET UP AND GO!
- Check out Yahoo groups
- Go to a church, synagogue, temple, ashram etc. and connect with like minded people
- Create a prayer group or just find a prayer partner
- Talk honestly with your significant other, a family member or friend – tell them how you’re feeling
- Help someone else-just listen…this will return ten-fold.
- Check out self-help books from the library…read them…a few of my favorites
“Excuse Me Your Life Is Waiting” – Lynn Grabhorn
“Loving What Is” – Byron katie
“This Thing Called You” – Ernest Holmes (almost anything by Holmes)
“The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” – Deepak Chopra (almost anything by Chopra)
“Anam Cara” – John O’Donohue
“Return To Love” – Marianne Williamson
Hafiz or Rumi’s poetry to put a smile on your face
- Sign up for Michael Dooley’s daily inspirational and fun thoughts of the day at www.tut.com
- Google inspirational quotes
- Sign up for an inspirational blog – mine or one of many others 😉
- Join a Choir
- Learn to dance
- Volunteer at a food bank, a shelter, an after school program, or become a tutor
- Borrow a kid for a fun day in the park
- Ask your face book friends to send you a positive thought or two (send them one too)
- Start a group with others who are going through “stuff”, meet weekly/monthly to discuss new possibilities. Stay out of the negative “story”
- Hang out at a local coffee shop and connect with some like-minded folks.
- Take your dog for a walk and meet some other dog owners
- Pet your cat
- See your psychic and connect with friends/family in spirit world… 😉
- Volunteer at the library, your local park or ranger station
- Share a Thanksgiving dinner with a neighbor or friend who’s alone, or celebrate with friends at a church dinner
Get up, Get going, Connect! Now more than ever is the time to reach out, to help one another, or to ask for help. Yes, I know we all hate to ask for help…but guess what? It’s time! If a neighbor, a friend or family member asked for help you would be happy to assist wouldn’t you? Then why are you so afraid to ask? I’m seeing more and more the necessity for all of us to reach out in whatever way we can. Mamacita says over and over again, there is no time to waste, we will all need each other in big ways. Share your good and ask if you need help.
What better time to start than the holidays…Thanksgiving is all about sharing…the Pilgrims and the Native Americans sharing crops, food and friendship…and we recreate this celebration yearly by sharing our bounty!
Let’s give Thanks for the abundance we have, share it and multiply it!
p.s. On my wedding day I handed Jim $200, best 200 bucks I ever lost, I guess you know I came home early!by