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Angel Valley Garden of Transformation

Whatcha gonna do with the 36 cents sticky with coke on your floorboard?      

When a woman on the street is huddled in the cold on a sidewalk vent trying to keep warm.      

Do you call her over, hand her the change, ask her story, ask her name      

Or do you tell yourself, you’re just a fool, a fool to believe you can change the world…      

             –Carrie Underwood      

 The other night André, my wonderful husband, reminded me that when I heal myself – I heal the world.  Yep, you see I/we believe that God/Spirit/Love, whatever you call the Universal essence is all there is.  Therefore, if Spirit is all there is, then it follows that we are Spirit – right here, right now manifesting in physical form.  When we heal ourselves, that healing spirals out in big waves of love and heals all that it touches.

A fine example of this type of healing is being done October 8th at Angel Valley Retreat Center.

Angel Valley is where James Ray held his now infamous retreat last October which concluded with a sweat lodge.  Yes, that sweat lodge! The sweat lodge that ended in tragedy for the families and friends of the three people who transitioned that night.

Michael and Amayra Hamilton the owners of Angel Valley have chosen to create a beautiful, sacred space, a memorial to honor those who passed a year ago.   Above is a picture of the beautiful heart that was created from the river rocks  used in the sweat lodge ceremony.  Large crystals represent those who passed, surrounded by those who have known and loved them. Trees have been planted to symbolize new life.

Here is part of Angel Valley’s invitation:      

At the same time we want to focus on how we make the next step. We have learned from the experience. We have grown. For many it has been a process of tremendous transformation, of getting a deeper understanding about life and death and a more profound appreciation for the preciousness of life. Therefore the ceremony will be a celebration of life.            

On the occasion, what we have so far called the Memorial Site will be officially renamed The Garden of Transformation      

I honor Michael and Amayra for what they are doing to heal the energy field, the Earth and the families and friends of Kirby Brown, James Shore and Liz Newman.  I’m not here to judge the people involved or guess why it happened or if it could have been prevented.  I am standing with Angel Valley in moving forward to heal their trauma, to heal all those involved and to heal all people.  They are  moving forward with love, grace and forgiveness.  This Friday, the celebration of life ceremony will include meditation, prayers, poetry and music. All the families, friends and community have been invited.

This is one of those healings that has the potential to heal the planet, shifting the grief and anger to love and forgiveness.  Not running away from the pain, but facing it, owning it and then taking the necessary steps to heal.

Where in your life is there something hanging out that you haven’t healed?

Take a moment to go inside – sit in silence or with quiet music. Ask who or what you need to forgive.  You may be surprised what comes up (I was, when a woman from 20 yrs. ago came up – I thought I was done with that chapter).  Whatever feelings come, allow yourself to be with them. You may experience anger, grief, fear, pain, frustration, disbelief, sadness – just allow yourself to feel it. If need be journal about your pain, let it all out. You can be as vicious as needed, purge it, get it out of you, rip it up and burn it.  Now that you’re done with that – forgive them and forgive yourself.

 When faced with this pain you may wonder how you could possibly forgive.  As I told a client yesterday you just do it!  Remember:

When you release the wrongdoer from the wrong, you cut a malignant tumor out of your inner life.

You set a prisoner free, but you discover that the real prisoner was yourself.  

–Lewis B. Smedes

The person who wronged you has most likely moved on, maybe not remembering the incident at all.  While you are still held prisoner.

It is your choice now – right now to heal or not.  What’s it going to be?  You really can decide to release this right now.  You really can decide to heal – yourself and the energy field that we all rely on.  Pigs were born to wallow in garbage not you! You are big enough, couragous enough and strong enough to cut that tumor out now.

p.s. Don’t forget to forgive yourself for carrying it this long!  Feel better don’t you????

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Rock Sculptures in Ottawa, all perfectly balanced, no cement, no glue, just rocks!

What can I say about change that hasn’t already been said?  Yep, it’s inevitable–just like the sun coming up today.

My Mama used to say, “This too shall pass”, which is great when times are tough and we’re up the proverbial creek without a paddle.  ( I used to always tell her to pray anyway!) Honestly though haven’t you always made it through?  Right! You did or you wouldn’t be here.  So why does change scare us so much?  What is it about change that makes some of us sweat like pigs (have you ever actually seen a pig sweat?), quake in our boots or have nightmares of epic proportions?

I had a small challenge with change while visiting our friends James and MaryAnne in Ottawa, Canada last week.  James as you may recall if you’ve perused my website is a demanding hike leader and my grappeling coach.  He took a day off to lead us on a hike as only James can do!  It was a gorgeous day–we were very spontaneous–stopping to see these beautiful rock sculptures along the river, visiting Andre’s first home and then finally arriving at the trailhead.

Up the EASY rope!

I had asked James to make it an easy hike because André had hurt his hip and I figured there was no reason to make it worse.

As we climbed two sets of  steep stairs,  sheer granite rock faces occasionally with just hand and foot holds and then pulled ourselves up a rope on another steep rock face, I became angrier and angrier.  Mother Bear came out and wanted to protect her husband from any more pain or discomfort…the night before he was moaning in his sleep from the pain!  When we finally reached the top of that gosh darn mountain,  I knew that I had to get the anger out  into the light,  so I could move on and not spoil my day.  I spoke my truth, hopefuly without blame or judgment–following Angeles Arrien’s wisdom.  James, bless him, listened lovingly and explained that this was an easy hike.  What the heck?  This was an easy hike? We just pulled ourselves up a  rope over a steep rock face and climbed sheer granite  where there were maybe 2″ ledges to grip with our boots and 1/2-1″ handholds….EASY?

Mary Anne wisely stated that maybe we should have confirmed before leaving what an easy hike was.  It turns out that the hike I would have probably rated a seven, James and the others would have rated a three.  WOW, we were just slightly out of sync on this communication.  Once I spoke my truth and James explained his take, my anger dissipated, all was forgiven and we continued down the mountain to a gorgeous, cool waterfall with little ponds to play in.  If I hadn’t released the anger I could have seethed and stressed the rest of the day.   James , rightly so, would have probably trotted my sorry butt back down the mountain and I would have missed the waterfall, splashing in the pond, and the beautiful boulder hopping hike following the creek down the other side.  Not exactly the hike I had in mind,  but an incredible adventure when I was willing to embrace the “change”, oh yeah and let go of the idea that I needed to protect André.

My lessons from this “change” were multi-level:

  • Ask for clarification when going on a hike with the Master.
  • Speak your truth without blame or judgment .   –Angeles Arrien
  • Anger brought into the light cannot subsist.
  • The change I fear may turn out great – it was an awesome hike and  afterward André actually felt better .

What “change” are you facing this week?  If it seems unclear ask for clarity.  If your fear rises up and becomes anger, frustration or turmoil bring it to the light.  Talk about your fear and express your anger, always coming from a place of love.   Brainstorm the positive possibilities that could come with this change.  Allow the brainstorming to be as farfetched and crazy as you can imagine, along with  rational, logical ideas.  Explore the possibilities, allow yourself to imagine an incredible new adventure, full of magic, full of joy, and just maybe with a waterfall at the end!

Have a life changing week!

Many blessings, BakeR     

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And speaking of change here’s a great video by Carrie Underwood that I had never heard….yes, it’s true I don’t watch television!

 

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