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Are you suffering from New Age Guilt?
You know, New Age guilt, that syndrome that comes on when you get sick and you ask yourself what caused it? What is the emotional reason behind this illness? What could I have done to prevent it? Why did this happen to me?
What if there IS NOT an emotional reason? What if you just caught something? What if that nasty bug going around got its crappy little tentacles in you? What if you just had a weak spot in your intestine, brain or artery since you were born, and there isn’t an emotional reason. You just happened to be born with it. Is it really helpful to beat yourself up some more?
I have good news, recently a woman was in for a reading and my guides told her, “SOMETIMES YOU JUST GET SICK!” WHAT? Sometimes it really is this physical vehicle we came in that gives out. The good news is you can let go of the new age guilt, you can decide to love yourself anyway. And you can stop guilting other people too! There’s an idea we can all benefit from, love ourselves just as we are and love everyone else just as they are.
No, I did not say you can stop taking your vitamins, jump off the treadmill, eat crappy food, or forget to clean up your thoughts! This is not a go to Burger King, get out of jail free card! I am however, gifting you a leave the guilt behind card. Let’s say you do get sick, you’re laying in bed feeling like hell and trying to figure out why. Sometimes it is productive to read Louise Hay or Ernest Holmes and find out what the underlying cause is so you can say the appropriate affirmation. There are times when we do need to clean up our thoughts, forgive someone or love ourselves. If that’s the case please do the work. However, you could decide to make your affirmations something along these lines: I love myself. I am whole, healthy and complete. I honor and appreciate my body for serving me all these years. I am so blessed to be alive in this day and age.
Love yourself through it! And remember:
The highest thought is always that thought which contains Joy.
The clearest words are those words which contain Truth.
The grandest feeling is that feeling which you call Love.
-Neale Donald Walsh, Conversations with God
Give yourself these gifts Joy, Truth and Love, you deserve it! And stop beating up my friend (that’s you)!
Love and joy, BakeR
For those of you who didn’t see my big announcement here it is again:
Once again Mamacita leads me down a new path!
I have been given an incredible opportunity to manage a new wellness center right here in Uptown Sedona along with the founders. They are beautiful, loving lights who are creating a gorgeous space, which will be dedicated to promoting emotional, physical, mental and spiritual wellness. We will open Labor Day weekend and I am thrilled to be starting this new adventure!
In the meantime,YES, I am still available for private sessions-readings, coaching and reiki here in Sedona, by phone, Skype or FaceTime.
Please contact me for your appointment:
I will continue to do my sessions at the new center when we open and will send details as we progress.
Coming Soon, I can’t wait for you to visit!by
Connect with Spirit
Several years ago when I first became a Reiki practitioner I went to my teacher, Laurelle Gaia, and asked her if she ever got bored doing Reiki. I had just done my first long session and found myself drifting away. Fortunately she didn’t smack me, she just answered with a resounding “NO”.
I walked away with my tail between my legs to think about it.
Usually the time flew by when I was working with a client, but occasionally I would find myself counting the minutes. The next time that I got bored, I checked in to find out what was going on. What I realized was that I was disconnected from Spirit, I wasn’t channeling Reiki energy; I was in ego and when I’m in ego I can’t channel anything. My ego self had to get out of the way and allow Spirit’s healing energy to channel through me. As soon as I remembered that Spirit does the work through me, I reconnected and I don’t get “bored” anymore. Just the other day I did back to back hour long Reiki sessions for six different people without any boredom. Six hours of Reiki and never a second of disconnection! In fact the only issue I have now is going over the allotted time, because my ego self is completely gone when Spirit takes over. The really cool thing is I don’t need a car to drive home anymore, I just float! LOL
This a perfect metaphor for my life. Whenever my ego self gets in the way I lose touch with Spirit and find it hard to get the Truth for myself. The disconnection also happens when I get too busy, I will find myself looking “out there” for answers instead of going within for the Truth. My fear based ego still believes it has all the answers and fights to keep me under control. Yet, the answers that will truly serve my highest and best good come from that quiet place within, where Spirit, my guides and my higher self reside. As long as I take the time and make the space to get connected the answers are there.
If you have issues with meditation or hearing your answers it’s likely that your ego gets in the way. Isn’t it your ego that thinks it has too much to do to be still and meditate? Isn’t it your ego that creates “monkey mind”, all those busy thoughts that spin around and around distracting you from your inner wisdom?
When do you get disconnected from the wisdom of your higher self, guides and Spirit? How can you connect today? To receive all the gifts Spirit has to offer carve out some time and space to truly connect with your inner wisdom. Give yourself the gift of connection, the gift of peace and the gift of wisdom.
Love and joy, BakeRby
Many of you are empaths…because of this you are easily attacked by troubled spirits and even the negative energy of those you are in close contact with. If you work with someone who is negative and you go home tired and drained, if you go to the mall and it feels like an attack, if you work in an area where there are lots of spirits crossing over (hospitals, hospice, etc.) and you don’t know how to deal with the emotions, you are probably an empath. Empaths pick up others emotions, we can be deeply affected by others negativity. It’s very important that you learn how to protect yourself.
Here is a quick video that explains very simply how to do this for yourself. For empaths it’s best if you do this every morning.
Click here for the video Protect yourself from troubled spirits or troubled people
Crystals that are good for protection
Black tourmaline, jet, obsidian and smoky quartz are all good for keeping negative energies away. .Malachite draws the negative entities out of the system. Amber is excellent for healing and it’s gentle energy is perfect to use for teething babies. Cat’s Eye dispels negative energy. Pyrite protects the subtle and physical bodies. Jasper absorbs negative energy. Kunzite works on the individual and environment. Labradorite brings light which dispels the darkness of the negative energies. And my new personal favorite Tibetan Black Quartz.
According to Naisha Ahsian in “The Book of Stones”: Tibetan Black Quartz brings to the aura an energy like a flashlight in the dark. Their frequency acts as a psychic ‘window wash’, clearing debris from the energetic field and allowing more Light to fill the aura. As the Light permeates the energetic field, the aura expands and strengthens, creating a ‘non-force’ field of Light around one’s physical body. The ‘non-force’ field illuminates all that it touches, bringing Light and consciousness to any environment. In a sense, these stones make you a carrier of their energy, and you spread wherever you go.
And isn’t this what we all want a ‘non-force’ field of Light around our physical body?
Have a Light filled day! Namaste, BakeRby
I used to hate Mormons. No, seriously, as the past State Coordinator of the National Organization for Women, Mormons were my nemesis.
I debated them, picketed their temple and even made fun of their beliefs. I was certain that everything I was for they were against, and everything I was against they were for. I knew that all the men were racist bigots and kept their multiple wives locked up at home barefoot and pregnant. And I even met some Mormon men who did treat their wives like that.
In 2003, a few months after my 50th birthday party, a casual friend was passing hateful propaganda about Muslims on email. Propaganda that claimed that all Muslims take a vow to kill us. It went on and on, I’m sure some of you saw it. I wrote this woman and told her that not all Muslims are hateful killers, that indeed she may have held hands with the Muslim couple that were at my birthday party as we sang “Let There Be Peace On Earth”. I told her that this couple are beautiful, fun, peace loving people just like we are. I told her that radical, hateful extremists can be found in almost every religion be they Christian, Muslim, Hindu etc. and every country from France to Russia to Pakistan to the USA. I reminded her that some Christians in this country bombed abortion clinics – sometimes wounding and killing people. She wrote back and apologized saying she had never known any of “them” (Muslims) and that she had believed all the awful diatribe about “them”. Our conversation ended peacefully.
Yet even after that incident, until about a year ago, I would have claimed that Mormons were my nemesis. That indeed I knew that “they” were against everything I believed in and vice versa.
And then I met a beautiful and faithful Mormon woman. A woman who is spiritual, metaphysical, peaceful, who believes that loving service is the top priority in her life’s mission. A woman who goes to drum circles with me, who shares Reiki healing, who helped me pack my house for a big move, a woman who loves movies, crystals, chocolate and her family, who regularly attends temple and has a deep belief in God. A woman who spent hours sending Reiki healing to my dog — who has become one of my best friends. A woman who shattered every myth I held about Mormons, including that they are all Republicans.
And I had to face my fears – my deep seated beliefs about “them”. I had to step up and recognize that when I put anyone in the “them” slot, the different than me slot, I contribute to the separation that causes hatred and violence. When I fail to meet someone and know them as another human being, regardless of their race, creed, religion, gender, sexual orientation, political affiliation or any other differences, I contribute to the imbalance. I contribute to dishonoring another human. And I dishonor myself in the process.
In the many years that I worked seven days a week for women’s rights, for gay rights, for equality for all, I remember the people who met me and said, “You don’t look like one of them”. And yet haven’t I said the same?
When I look at anyone different than me in any way and pass judgment based on those assumptions , I give up my chance to know the real person, to relate to another human being at a deeper level…the level where love exists. For at the core of the majority of humans, I believe there is infinite light, I believe there is powerful love and forgiveness. I believe that most of us are good – that we want peace – that we care about each other. I believe when we take the time to go beyond our judgments, our assumptions and yes our expectations, that we will find another human being who wants the same things we do, who desires love, peace and freedom.
I commit to reach out to “them” the next time. I commit to take the time to learn who “they” are.
And I commit to remember, when I point a finger at someone else there are three pointing back at me!
Please feel free to add your comments below…thanks!
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Thanks to T-Mobile and my friend David Sunfellow, I’ve just had a wonderful treat this morning. This beautiful video made at Heathrow Terminal 5, International Arrivals. For those of you who watch television, maybe you’ve seen the short version, but I don’t watch TV so I’ve never seen this.
I was amazed at the emotion this brought up. In high school I used to drive over to Chicago’s O’Hare airport from my small town in Michigan, just to watch people come and go. The coming home greetings would always touch me deeply, as was the case with this video. How beautiful to see people giving the gift of hugs, kisses, smiles…welcoming each other, loving each other. We don’t get to see these kind of feelings expressed one to another in many places, airports being one exception. And in airports, maybe because of the long travel, or the time away, people usually are not shy about being expressive. You get to witness the most unrestrained joy. Joyous screams, joyous kisses, joyous hugs….joy just oozing out, bubbling over and touching everyone else!
My invitation to you this holiday season is to express your love for friends and family in a new expressive way. Open your mind, open your heart and give from that place of pure love, with no attachment to the outcome. Don’t worry about how it will be received, that is their choice not yours!
Here are some ideas for sharing from the heart:
- Big hugs, often!
- Kisses too!
- Find a youtube video that a loved one would enjoy and send to them…free!
- Share a walk in the park, a hike in the woods, build a snowperson.
- Send online greeting cards, again usually FREE, and saves trees.
- Give the gift of service, offer to clean the house, babysit, walk the dog, feed the cat, take an elderly person shopping, fix dinner.
- More hugs and kisses
- Tell someone you love them and add why. “I love you because you read my blog and post comments…I so appreciate hearing that you were touched!”
- Invite someone over for a cup of tea or coffee….talk…turn off your cell phones…that’s right no calls, no texting, no checking email.
- Go to the airport with a friend and watch people greet each other…let yourselves feel the emotion.
- Hold hands with your partner.
- Turn off the TV…watch a fire, or read a beautiful passage from a favorite book, more hand holding is perfectly acceptable too!
- Can’t afford a Christmas tree, get out your ornaments and decorate a tree outside. Invite your Jewish friends to help!
- Share one of your traditions (Chanukah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, Solstice, Ramadan, etc.) with a friend who is not of your faith. I went to a friends Chanukah concert one year and cried it was so beautiful (thanks Karen)! One year I invited Jewish friends over to help decorate the Christmas tree…have you ever heard a grown man say, “This is the first ornament I have ever hung on a tree”? (thanks Arthur)
- Go caroling…remember caroling?
- Trade services, or do a big project together.
- Visit a temple, church, shrine or ceremony that is not of your faith…enjoy their traditions. One year I went to Christmas Eve midnight mass, I found it beautiful, and not fraught with any baggage for me.
- Give away a favorite book, or just copy a favorite passage to pass on.
- Go through old photos and give them to friends or family
- Volunteer together with a friend at a shelter, charity, park, picking up road trash, etc. Bonus – more time together!
- LISTEN! Maybe the most precious gift of all!
How can you share the gift of your love, your joy, your peace, your compassion, your wisdom, your talents, your caring, your creativity, your heart this year?
JOY TO THE WORLD!!!
PEACE TO THE WORLD!!
LOVE TO YOU AND YOURS!
Please leave your comments below. Have an idea for sharing love and joy? I would love to hear it!by