The Psychic Coach
May You Succumb to the Danger of Growth.
– John O’Donohue
As the year ends, we often look back and take stock of what we have or have not accomplished. What items did we cross off the “to-do” list? What items got moved ahead to next year’s list? What items did we decide were unworthy of our attention and we threw them on the Samhain fire?
It may seem early to be talking of growth when we’re still caught up in the season of light, but I ask you to slow down for a moment and consider gifting yourself the “Danger of Growth”. Growth can take on any form you choose – you may be the one who opts to get out more or the one who stays quiet. You may choose the growth of exploring a new spiritual belief or simply being in nature with Spirit’s wondrous delights.
You may choose to grow through fun activities or deep studies, walking the Camino de Santiago, exploring the Amazon Rainforest, or the concrete jungle of New York. What you choose to Be, Do, or Have doesn’t really matter. It is answering the invitation that matters.
What makes your ego perceive Growth as Dangerous? Did you fall one too many times? Are you afraid you won’t get back up this time? Yet haven’t you always?
Think of a time in the past when you succumbed to the Danger of Growth. Was the payoff greater than the risk? Were you happy you did it?
One of my greatest Danger of Growth moments was traveling to Peru to work with Ayahuasquero and Maestro Huachumero healers. If I had listened to my friends and family I would have stopped in my tracks. This is just a sampling of what I heard: “Don’t you know there are poisonous snakes in the jungle?” “Seriously, you’re going to the jungle to take drugs?” “What about malaria?” “It’s a third-world country, you’ll die there!” “What the hell, are you crazy!” and from my partner at the time, “If you go, We. Are. Done.”
Yes, it was scary. But I knew, without a doubt, that I was meant to do this. I had always known, always, that I would work with Shamans. I won’t lie to you the first ceremony was brutal – I wanted to come home. I threw a hissy fit that would make a hangry two-year-old proud. Fortunately, Don Howard gently convinced me to stay, and I am so grateful! Beyond that initiation came the real growth. Once I purged the anger and rage, the insight and wisdom were able to break through. That choice changed my life!
I came home after those twenty-six days and changed my life completely over the next two years. The best choices of my life were made then, and I have built on that foundation to create happiness and fulfillment I could only imagine were possible.
You too have choices to make:
What do you want to be?
What do you want to do?
What do you want to have?
What do you want to be?
Are you in the health industry but have you always wanted to go to NYC and try your skill on Wall Street? You want to be a shark, make big money, and live in a fancy penthouse in the city that never sleeps! What stops you? Write down the reasons you can’t, and then write down the Truth – which is YOU CAN. Write down all the ways that it is possible. Anything is possible, if you are willing to risk, be creative, work hard (yeah, they always leave this step out), risk some more, create some more, and work harder. Once upon a time, I majored in nursing, then that class came when I found out we had to give shots. Shots? Shots involve needles! I HATE needles! I can’t even look at a syringe without panicking. My nursing career was over. Fortunately, many years later I discovered alternative healing – Shamanic Reiki and Spiritual Life coaching. I can now use my gifts – no needles necessary! How can you BE all you want to be?
What do you want to do?
Do you want to sing on The Voice, fly planes, learn Reiki, meditate longer and more often, hike the Grand Canyon, build your own website, paint or write or sculpt, stay home and nest…what do you REALLY want to do? Make a list of at least 25 things you want to do. Choose the top 13. Get to work on making them happen. I would suggest that you choose activities that challenge you to stretch and grow.
I am never going to bungee jump (that thing could break) but I have walked on fire, parasailed, and slept in a remote cave for three nights alone with just water and a few blankets. There may be some limitations to what you can do, if you don’t have a spectacular voice, you may not get chosen to sing on The Voice, but you may be able to share the gift of singing in other ways. There is only one significant difference between those who do and those who don’t do what they want – Belief. We don’t have to convince Spirit that we can do it, we have to convince our tiny little Ego that we can Do It!
What do you want to have?
Do you want fancy cars, multiple homes, and luxurious vacations? Or are you more the cabin in the woods, hiking and meditating, working enough to buy the seeds for your small garden, type of person? Are there specific items you want to have like those stated above or do you seek qualities in your life like joy, peace, creativity, and security? Again, take the time to list out what you want to have this coming year.
When working with qualities I love to do this exercise. First list the top seven qualities that are most important to you. Next, reduce the list to the top six. Then the top five and so on, until you get to your top One quality. You may find that the list changes as you winnow down. For instance, you might have your top three as Love, Peace, and Happiness. Then when you get to Two you realize you forgot Creativity. Now you realize you have to add Creativity, but what will you eliminate? See how that works? My final work surprised me, but then again it didn’t. As it morphed and changed, when I finally got there–and it didn’t take long–I knew it was the perfect word.
What’s my word you ask? FREEDOM
What better gift to give yourself than to…
If not now, when?
Love and Light,
In all these categories, when you make your lists challenge yourself to stretch and grow. Your lists should inspire, excite and be just this side of dangerous!
If your Choices don’t Light you up, I would love to help you Create that Fire!
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Imagine you are in a pitch-black room,
in an unfamiliar building.
The electricity is out.
You are terrified of the dark.
You have no matches – because who smokes anymore?
Your cell phone died hours ago.
You shouted but no one came.
Anxiety is taking hold, panic is pressing in.
Every scary thought of being trapped in a dark building runs through your head in technicolor!
You hear one thing louder and louder – your heartbeat.
And then you remember that pen your friend gave you, the one from their hairstylist, with the advertisement on it. The one that has a tiny light at the other end!
“PLEASE GOD LET ME STILL HAVE IT! PLEASE GOD LET IT WORK! YES, here it is!!! OMG, it works! Thank you, thank you, thank you!”
It’s a tiny, tiny light on the opposite end of a pen, but at this moment, it feels HUGE, doesn’t it? This tiny light can quash fears of immense proportion, light a room and change your perspective. Quite amazing!
Now imagine what your light can do in the darkness that surrounds us these days! It is so easy to get sucked into the morass that surrounds us on a daily and hourly basis. I won’t repeat the bad news because you already know it. If you don’t good for you!
So HOW do we shine our Light on the Darkness?
1. Center in your heart space – come back to your source – to your own bubble of light. Connect with Great Spirit, God, The Universe, Tao, Yahweh, whatever you call Oneness, however you best do that. Sometimes it’s as easy as communing with nature; or taking 3-5 deep conscious breaths while being aware and grateful for life. Maybe for you, it’s saying a prayer, a ten-minute meditation, or thirty minutes of yoga. Do it! This is for your Health and Sanity!
2. Turn away from the Darkness. Don’t read it, watch it or listen to it. Turn off the news channels. Or at the very least limit yourself to 10-20 minutes per day. I find it interesting that folks will only eat organic food yet feed their brains with hours of bad news.
3. Send light to the dark. If you know someone who is suffering from pain, grief, or illness send them healing energy, reiki, prayer, or positive thoughts. If you see an accident on the side of the road, send positive energy to the people involved. See light surrounding them. Remember, what you send out returns ten times!
4. If you must watch, listen or read bad news then send soothing energy to those areas. Fires devasting the forests? Send calm & rain. Floods destroying property and killing people? Send soothing energy to the rivers. Yes, you do have the power to calm a storm!
5. Avoid negative people – especially those who dwell on the bad news, it’s like playing in a toxic dump.
6. Practice reframing negativity – have a touchstone for those times when you find yourself depressed or flailing in negativity (it happens). Think of a funny animal, or a funny incident, or a place of beauty that you love – something to change the negative energy. Once you switch off the negative energy then imagine the new positive result that you want to experience. An easy example is getting a new job: Imagine yourself working in the perfect environment with people who are creative, supportive, happy, and contributing to the world in a positive way. Imagine exactly what you want to achieve in your new job. Using all your senses, see yourself there!
Try it right now and allow yourself to experience the change you feel when you play in the positive energy of creation. You can use this exercise for any situation in your life.
7. Join with other folks who are positive influencers – meet together in person or over Zoom and share the Light with each other. No bitching, whining, or complaining! Only positivity allowed! Come together to share a Meditation, Joy, Good news, Blessings, a positive reading – get it? Only good POSITIVE news is allowed. One person can lead every week, or you can rotate the responsibility. Meet weekly, bi-weekly or monthly.
8. Practice Gratitude daily – be aware of all the good in your life. Speak it, write it, and include it in your prayers or meditations.
9. Shine your light. You may think that your light is just a tiny pin light but remember that tiny light on the end of a pen can light a room. In fact…
YOUR LIGHT IS HUGE!
Never underestimate the power of your light to chase away the dark. For there are many of us out here standing together. We just have to practice, practice, practice!
Shine on! BakeR – The Psychic Coachby
Recently I realized that I still have insidious worms in my head. They writhe around, mushing my brain into slimy toxic waste! My fear based ego loves them, it feeds them regularly, giving them special treats so they can get bigger and fatter. GROSS!!!
For years, instead of knowing the Truth for myself, I have allowed the worms to eat away at who I really am. I allowed them to create my stories.
When I got lovingly honest with myself I came up with these insidious worms (stories) and the fodder the ego feeds them:
I am afraid of success. Yep, you should be, if you get really successful you won’t have any privacy, you’ll be gone all the time and your husband won’t love you anymore.
I am a procrastinator. Maybe, but you could miss something really important on Facebook.
I am afraid of failure. Damn straight, it hurts to fail!
I am not a good writer. Seriously have you read John O’Donohue? That’s a good writer, you are a hack with a couple of ideas.
Mamacita answers other peoples’ questions, but not mine. Mamacita has much more important issues to deal with than your whiny stuff. She’s not supposed to help you, just others.
With all the people I have taught these principles, why don’t I put them into action? No kidding, you must be unteachable.
The truth is these are all just stories I have been telling myself for eons. No matter what my “story” of the day is, I can change the ending. For instance, I used to have” victim consciousness” because my father sexually abused me for years. I lived from that “victim conscious” for a good part of my life, until I realized that I didn’t have to live there anymore. I healed that wound and changed my life. Now that I know I can heal something that big, I can surely heal being afraid of success or failure, or stop procrastinating, or listen to Mamacita, or practice what I teach.
It’s as simple as withholding the worms fodder and feeding my brain and psyche some new material, such as:
I am successful. I am in control of my time, my life is balanced
I choose to complete my marketing and then write or read.
I love failure, it’s one step closer to finding the correct way or the genius answer.
I practice, practice, practice my writing. I love sharing my ideas through my writing.
Mamacita and my other guides are always available for me, they love helping me.
As I teach others these principles I learn them myself. I am completely honest with myself.
All those stories we tell ourselves, they’re just worms! We can eradicate the worms, if we will just stop feeding them!
Let’s ask ourselves right now:
What are the stories I tell myself?
What do I need to release to change a particular story?
Changing my thinking and my perspective, how do I create my new story?
How can I put the new story into action?
If something is hard it’s because we are out of integrity. We must ask ourselves, “Where am I not being true to myself?”
I am going to be in integrity with myself, eradicate the worms and watch how easy it gets. No matter what the story, with a new perspective, I CAN change it – I can change the ending.
If you know someone who could benefit from reading this in any way please share it with them. In fact I’m going to be really BOLD here and ask you to please share this message with at least one person, Thank You!
Here’s my BIG announcement….drum roll please!
Once again Mamacita leads me down a new path!
I have been given an incredible opportunity to manage a new wellness center right here in Uptown Sedona along with the founders. They are beautiful, loving lights who are creating a gorgeous space, which will be dedicated to promoting emotional, physical, mental and spiritual wellness. We will open Labor Day weekend and I am thrilled to be starting this new adventure! Until then, YES, I am still available for private sessions-readings, coaching and reiki here in Sedona, by phone, Skype or FaceTime.
Please contact me for your appointment as my time is limited:
I will continue to do my sessions at the new center when we open and will send details as we progress.
Here’s my latest Red Rocker Chat video: Five Step Affirmative Prayer
And the print version if you prefer:
Affirmative prayer or treatment is the form of prayer I was taught. Instead of begging or beseeching God to help us we are stating our intention in a powerful and positive way. You can also use this form of prayer to express pure gratitude. Remember to connect with Spirit when everything is going good too, coming from that place of love and thanks.
When I used to teach children in Sunday School at New Vision Spiritual Growth Center how to do affirmative prayer, I would teach them with these words and actions:
God is all there is! -use your hands to make a large circle, like the whole world
I am all that God is. -Bring your hands into your chest.
I am happy or I am smart or I have a new friend etc. -Holding palms out flat to receive.
Thank you God! -Clapping
I let it go. And so it is! -Hands and arms opening into the air.
The adult version goes like this:
Five Step Affirmative Prayer/Treatment with short examples of each step.
Recognition – God is all there is. It is in the mountains, a drop of water and the ocean. Spirit is unlimited, creative genius.
Unification – I am all that Spirit is. I am the creative energy that Spirit is, I am the grace that Spirit is, I am that which It is.
Affirmation – I have completed my super spirit charged, psychic development book, which inspires and empowers people to use their gifts. Or Money is flowing to me in ever increasing amounts.
Gratitude – Thank you, thank you, thank you Spirit for the creativity and commitment you have so generously shared with me. I am so grateful for the inspiration all around me, the beauty of a spring day, the love of my friends, the power and majesty of the mountains.
Release – I release these words into the action of Universal law, knowing that it is complete – it is done. And so it is!
Suggestions for use:
Make it your’s, use words that resonate with you. Do write it positively and in the present tense.
I believe that the most important element is the feeling you bring to your treatment. If you are just repeating words by rote or out of obligation please rethink it. Make it meaningful to you!
Some people like to write their prayers, others choose not to. Again use what works for you. I personally have gone through phases of both. When I was first working with affirmative prayer or treatments as we call them in Religious Science, I wrote my prayers, it helped me to learn the steps and see when my treatments were lifeless.
When you release it, RELEASE IT! You don’t have to worry about how it will happen, how to do it is not our problem; the Universe knows how to make it happen. Get your ego out of the way and trust. Do you want to put your faith in Spirit or Fear? Right, Spirit! So let it go.
Practice, practice, practice. When you practice and see results, you will gain confidence and faith. Use those spiritual muscles!
Enjoy your divine connection with love and joy, BakeRby
Connect with Spirit
Several years ago when I first became a Reiki practitioner I went to my teacher, Laurelle Gaia, and asked her if she ever got bored doing Reiki. I had just done my first long session and found myself drifting away. Fortunately she didn’t smack me, she just answered with a resounding “NO”.
I walked away with my tail between my legs to think about it.
Usually the time flew by when I was working with a client, but occasionally I would find myself counting the minutes. The next time that I got bored, I checked in to find out what was going on. What I realized was that I was disconnected from Spirit, I wasn’t channeling Reiki energy; I was in ego and when I’m in ego I can’t channel anything. My ego self had to get out of the way and allow Spirit’s healing energy to channel through me. As soon as I remembered that Spirit does the work through me, I reconnected and I don’t get “bored” anymore. Just the other day I did back to back hour long Reiki sessions for six different people without any boredom. Six hours of Reiki and never a second of disconnection! In fact the only issue I have now is going over the allotted time, because my ego self is completely gone when Spirit takes over. The really cool thing is I don’t need a car to drive home anymore, I just float! LOL
This a perfect metaphor for my life. Whenever my ego self gets in the way I lose touch with Spirit and find it hard to get the Truth for myself. The disconnection also happens when I get too busy, I will find myself looking “out there” for answers instead of going within for the Truth. My fear based ego still believes it has all the answers and fights to keep me under control. Yet, the answers that will truly serve my highest and best good come from that quiet place within, where Spirit, my guides and my higher self reside. As long as I take the time and make the space to get connected the answers are there.
If you have issues with meditation or hearing your answers it’s likely that your ego gets in the way. Isn’t it your ego that thinks it has too much to do to be still and meditate? Isn’t it your ego that creates “monkey mind”, all those busy thoughts that spin around and around distracting you from your inner wisdom?
When do you get disconnected from the wisdom of your higher self, guides and Spirit? How can you connect today? To receive all the gifts Spirit has to offer carve out some time and space to truly connect with your inner wisdom. Give yourself the gift of connection, the gift of peace and the gift of wisdom.
Love and joy, BakeRby
Love Your Guides!
Have you ever gone to an enlightening and illuminating spiritual retreat where you felt completely connected to your guides, angels and animal totems? Where you experienced visions or intense feelings, heard voices or experienced Kundalini awakenings? But then you went home and you wondered why the angels, guides and totems deserted you. Where the heck did they go? Why were you so connected at the retreat but not at home?
At the retreat you opened up to the energies and played in the mystical realm. You rode the wave of expansion created by the synchronistic energy of a group of people coming together to learn, experience and practice new skills, creating an intense level of awareness. Your focus and energy were completely centered on learning these new skills; there were no distractions. But alas you had to go home, chop wood, carry water, pay bills, cook, clean and maybe even find time to work your day job.
Well that’s just great, but how can you create the same connection with your guides at home?
Practice, practice, practice. Yes, practice your connection. Create time to spend with your guides. Like a relationship with a good friend (which they are) you must nurture that relationship. The more you connect with them, the more you will learn from them and the easier it will be to connect. If you can carve out time for a Starbucks coffee, or to watch the latest series on Netflix you can make time to work with your guides. Find ten minutes (longer if possible) a day to sit in quiet and invite them in.
Create a sacred space – A small altar with a candle, crystals, rocks, feathers, icons, any items that help you create the mood to sit quietly and connect. It might be just a special chair in the corner by a sunny window. This is where you sit when your intention is to connect with spirits, guides, animal totems, fairies, or angels. It is your own private vortex, where the energy feels right.
When I’m doing private readings at home I sit in my red rocker instead of at my desk. I can connect with my guides when I’m sitting at my desk, but the rocker feels better. A bead and feather dance necklace from Peru decorates the wall, a brass Buddha that’s been with me for forty plus years sits amongst labradorite, spirit stone, clear quartz, selenite, rocks, shells and a crow wing that I found at West Fork trail head. My grandmothers yarn basket with a few small balls of yarn sits at my feet. These things move and are replaced at will but the space always feels just right. It’s my special place to talk with my earthly and spiritual friends. Some days I play music other days I don’t. There are no particular items you should or must include in your sacred space, use the items that help you feel a connection with spirit world. It can be completely barren white walls if that is what calls to you.
Your guides are friends; treat them as such. Call on them in good times and bad. Send gratitude for the light they bring to your life, ask them to intervene, to play the muse, to walk with you, to laugh with you, to create with you.
Like friends, the guides love to hear from you. When they know they are important to you they will share guidance and information. Don’t always expect big flashy fireworks, loud voices or a knock on the head. Their presence is usually more like a chill up your spine, hair raising goose bumps on your arms, a quiet whispering “why don’t you try that path”, knowing the correct street to turn on, that old song on the radio that speaks to you, or a friend calling at exactly the moment you thought of them.
Trust these subtle gifts, your guides are touching you, talking to you or maybe sending your human friend to help. Remember too that we all connect with different “clairs”, you may be clairaudient, clairvoyant, clairsentient, clairgustant, clairtangent, clairscent or a combination of some or all of these. Get quiet – remove all the distractions, silence or turn off the phone, close the computer screen and listen or feel. Be aware of the subtle ways they communicate and encourage them, let them know you hear/feel/see them
You will find that when your guides really want your attention they will demand it in not so subtle ways. Once I asked whether it was for my highest and best good to continue in a primary relationship. I said, “if the answer is yes I want to see two ravens fly over, if the answer is no, just one raven should fly over.” Standing on a mountain in southern Arizona where ravens are numerous, I knew this was possible. As I sat and meditated a lone raven flew over and did a spiral dance right over my head. In my infinite wisdom I decided that was a coincidence. Yeah right, a raven doing a spiral dance right over my head was a coincidence! I was really resisting this answer and my ego gave me a perfect rationalization.
The story gets better, as I drove home I saw a lone raven fly off a tree on the left side of the road; he landed in the middle of the road right in front of my car and strutted around like he was king of the road. Needless to say, I had to stop and watch this little parade or slaughter the king.
But my guides still weren’t done with me. Around a half mile later another raven flew from the right side of the road and again landed on the road in front of my car, looking right at me. Wow, really? Granted I was only going about 25 MPH on this long dirt road, but never in my life had a glossy black raven landed on the road in front of my car. It took me another year or so to end the relationship (back then I was a slow learner) but I’ve never forgotten those stunning ravens. By the way, I knew it was time to end the relationship, this was just a very strong confirmation that I needed to take the necessary steps. I stopped that day and gave thanks for the guidance, but as always I had free will to follow through or not.
Your guides are there for you always, in all ways. Do you want to spend time with them? Then just do it. Get quiet, go in and invite them to be with you. Thank them for their time and send love and light back to them.
May your days be filled with love, guidance and connection with your spiritual friends,
Please tell me how you love your guides in the comments below…many blessings!by
When I was first working with Mamacita, my spirit guide, she told me to purchase a Silver Bullet travel trailer and go travel around the country. I was stunned and confused at this advice because I don’t particularly like to travel…at least not that kind of travel. I prefer to go somewhere and stay put for two weeks, get to know the locals, walk everywhere and relax. The thought of traveling around, a day here, a couple of days there, sounded like my version of hell.
After a few days of angst I finally said “NO”. I then asked Mamacita what on earth she was thinking and why she would tell me to do something that was so revolting to me. Mamacita in her infinite wisdom told me that she wanted me to learn how to say NO. That it didn’t matter who told me to do something, Jesus, Buddha, the angels or her, if it wasn’t right for me I could say NO! This was huge for me, and I knew that if she had just told me I could do this it wouldn’t have had the same impact. I needed to go through that trial to really assimilate the lesson.
When you’re hearing the wisdom of your Spirit Guides it is:
- It resonates with your Truth
- It speaks to your heart instead of your ego
- It may challenge you
- It feels right
- And you can say NO if it doesn’t fit for you
If the guidance does not fit these parameters ask again. Check with your guides that you are hearing correctly, sit with them and take the time to understand. If you do not get an answer when you ask, that is an answer. No answer means you need to reflect more and maybe ask again in a few days. Or possibly you aren’t supposed to do anything right now.
Remember to surrender, let go and get out of your own way. The answer will come. Ask yourself, “Is this forced?”. If it feels forced at all take a step back and check again. It’s okay to wait for the truth.
Apparently I didn’t completely learn the lesson because about two years ago I got a message to give one of my rings to a client. A ring I really loved! After some back and forth I gave her the ring but never felt right about it. I was angry and frustrated when I came home and then I realized that an entity I had removed from a client earlier that day had attached to me. It was this nasty entity that told me to give the ring to my client. How did I finally know that? The decision wasn’t right for me, I felt bad and I was mad as hell that I had done this stupid thing. If I had followed my Truth I would never have allowed that nasty entity to influence me like that. I could have said NO and sent the ring later if I was still getting this guidance. Believe me I definitely learned the lesson of saying NO, that fateful day!
Clearing the entity is another story for another day, just please understand that you can always say NO, even to your guides (especially to a nasty entity posing as your guide). Follow your Truth!
If you would like to learn more about working with guides, clearing nasty entities, healing past lives, playing with energy and much, much more, join me at the upcoming Dance in the Light women’s retreat, June 6-9, 2014, here in Sedona, AZ. For all the details click here Dance in the Light.by