Steadily Cheyenne (my dog) and I climbed the Soldiers Pass Trail, we rounded the corner and there were the Seven Sacred Pools. On this hot, dusty day there was no water in the pools. I sat and meditated for awhile, Cheyenne made friends and shared treats with a tiny dog named Zippy and rested in the shade of a scrub pine. As we headed back down the trail we encountered two women who had some questions. The louder of the two demanded to know how far the sacred pools were. I assured her the sacred pools were just around the next corner. She asked if there was water in the pools.
“Not this time of year”, I replied.
“Are you serious? I can’t believe we hiked all this way and there’s no water. Crap, they could have told us.”
“Who could have told you?”
“The people who suggested this trail, they could have told us there was no water in the pools.”
They stomped off to go see the “dry sacred pools”.
As I walked away I had to laugh, I wanted to turn back and say something sarcastic like, “Gee I’m sorry you haven’t seen any beauty today.” But instead I practiced sending loving energy. All around these two women were some of the most incredible, majestic red rock mountains, canyons and intense blue sky. About 1/8 of a mile away they would have hiked past Devil’s Sink Hole, a huge naturally formed sink hole. They had hiked from Jordan Road which meant they had been on several of the best trails in Sedona! What I realized was in their search for the “Seven Sacred Pools” they had likely missed the sacredness on their journey.
It reminded me of the weekend I went to a Women’s Spiritual Retreat outside of Tucson. On Saturday morning the leader told us to go out on the land and find our sacred spot. There we were to draw a circle to sit within and meditate. Prior to this I had a phone call from a client. He was very upset, demanding to know what I was doing to sell his home, what was my plan and where was I anyway. One of my better clients, we had become friends as well as business associates. He had never treated me this way and I was shocked, embarrassed, hurt and frustrated. I contemplated returning home early from the retreat. I chose to do my meditation and then decide if I would go home.
As I walked the land looking for my “sacred spot” I was lost in worry about my client. The conversation played over and over in my head, fretting and fuming I stomped along. Suddenly I heard the unmistakable sound of a rattlesnake. Similar to the sound of a locust, once you’ve heard a mad rattler you recognize the difference. I stopped in my tracks and looked around to determine its location. There about one foot in front of me, at the base of a large Saguaro was a coiled rattler, but she was the strangest looking rattler I’ve ever seen. Pale peach in color with light diamonds on her back she was an Albino, pretty rare even in rattlesnake country. I’m not afraid of snakes and rattlers are not particularly aggressive, so I backed up a step or two and asked her if she had a message for me. “BE HERE NOW!” ‘Be here now’?, I questioned. And then I got it. Wrapped up in my worry over the client, I was mentally and emotionally back in Scottsdale. My body may have been in the desert but my mind and heart were not.
The sacred experience I was searching for had been preempted by my worry and concern. Had I taken one more unaware step I would have most likely been struck by the rattlesnake. I thanked the Albino rattlesnake for her wisdom, came back into my body and moved on to find my sacred spot by the creek. For the rest of the weekend I practiced “Being here now”, enjoying the sacred circle, community meals, sweat lodge, beautiful music and songs, and my own deep communion with Spirit.
I hold the lesson of the rattlesnake in very high regard and think of her often when I succumb to worry or frustration.
- How much time do you waste on worry?
- How much time do you waste on making up negative stories?
- Have there been times you missed the sacred moment because your focus was elsewhere?
- What are sacred moments for you?
- How can you have more sacred moments?
- What can you use to remind you to be here now?
- If only for today, how can you BE HERE NOW?
- I invite you to gift yourself at least one sacred moment or minute or hour per day. YOU DESERVE IT! Spirit lives to gift you sacred moments every day!
Join me November 11-13 at my Radical Healing Women’s Retreat – Come as an Abused Woman, Leave an Empowered Woman!by
Rain beat down my windshield, and red mud splattered my car as I drove through Monument Valley in October of 2009. The road was muddy but passable. The thought of returning to my campsite was daunting. It was a cold, hard rain, and I had myself and a large wet dog to care for.
Suddenly I was sobbing, I pulled off the road and I heard Mamacita (my spirit guide) say to me, “You don’t have to do it alone anymore. All your life you have done it alone, even when in a relationship you were alone. You always kept something back. It’s time now…it’s time.”
I had gone to Monument Valley with my dog, Cheyenne, a tent, sleeping bag, small cook stove, lantern and other basic supplies. I was prepared to stay twelve days, on a trip I had anticipated for months. I knew something waited in Monument Valley, I just wasn’t sure what that something was. While it was gorgeous during the day (sans the rain) at night it was colder than a well digger’s ass in January! Thankfully I had brought along a down comforter, which became my sleeping pad. Cheyenne gave me a look like only a dog can, one that said, “I love you Mom, but what were you thinking?”
I had bet my friend Jim $200.00 that I would make it the full twelve days. He insisted that I could survive the camping, but I would miss André too much and come home. It wasn’t so much a case of missing André, it was that I wanted to be with him and I knew in that moment through the tears, through the pain of aloneness that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I surrendered to love.
What I know for you is that you don’t have to do it alone anymore either. The Truth is you are never alone, however, some days it’s hard to remember there is a loving, abundant, infinite, wise source larger than you. Of course this source is always available, but when you are in the middle of the tsunami, or drowning in a black hole, Source seems a long, long way off.
So you beg, you plead and bargain…”dear God if you will just ____________________ I will ___________________. Occasionally this seems to work (hopefully you express your gratitude) until the next desperate moment. The Truth is you are not alone-EVER! Source is always there of course and so are other people! And those other people are searching for you, to connect-to create-to grow through love. ‘Cause when we get down to the core, love is what it’s all about, isn’t it? Love – in the form of friends, family, even strangers who step up and help each other, even those in Spirit world.
After my recent women’s retreat I did a reading for my new friend Trish. Her husband Aron who had died two years ago, came through to talk to her. I’ll let Trish’s words tell the rest of the story:
“During BakeR’s reading, Aron gave me a huge bouquet of yellow daisies. Didn’t mean anything significant to me. Then I visited Aron’s marker at the National Cemetery for Veteran’s Day. Yep, in front of his marker, at least 24 bushes in full bloom, of . . . yellow daisies.” –Trish
This story gave me goose bumps and tears, and it reminded me how un-alone we truly are. Most people are not aware how many of their loved ones who have crossed over are still with them. You are never alone!
Remember if you are feeling alone, or if you’re living in pain, worry, frustration, anger or sadness, there is someone else who is feeling the same way. There are a myriad of ways to connect with them…find your support group whether it be one or forty four.
- Search the newspaper for a list of groups and ongoing events. GET UP AND GO!
- Check out Yahoo groups
- Go to a church, synagogue, temple, ashram etc. and connect with like minded people
- Create a prayer group or just find a prayer partner
- Talk honestly with your significant other, a family member or friend – tell them how you’re feeling
- Help someone else-just listen…this will return ten-fold.
- Check out self-help books from the library…read them…a few of my favorites
“Excuse Me Your Life Is Waiting” – Lynn Grabhorn
“Loving What Is” – Byron katie
“This Thing Called You” – Ernest Holmes (almost anything by Holmes)
“The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” – Deepak Chopra (almost anything by Chopra)
“Anam Cara” – John O’Donohue
“Return To Love” – Marianne Williamson
Hafiz or Rumi’s poetry to put a smile on your face
- Sign up for Michael Dooley’s daily inspirational and fun thoughts of the day at www.tut.com
- Google inspirational quotes
- Sign up for an inspirational blog – mine or one of many others 😉
- Join a Choir
- Learn to dance
- Volunteer at a food bank, a shelter, an after school program, or become a tutor
- Borrow a kid for a fun day in the park
- Ask your face book friends to send you a positive thought or two (send them one too)
- Start a group with others who are going through “stuff”, meet weekly/monthly to discuss new possibilities. Stay out of the negative “story”
- Hang out at a local coffee shop and connect with some like-minded folks.
- Take your dog for a walk and meet some other dog owners
- Pet your cat
- See your psychic and connect with friends/family in spirit world… 😉
- Volunteer at the library, your local park or ranger station
- Share a Thanksgiving dinner with a neighbor or friend who’s alone, or celebrate with friends at a church dinner
Get up, Get going, Connect! Now more than ever is the time to reach out, to help one another, or to ask for help. Yes, I know we all hate to ask for help…but guess what? It’s time! If a neighbor, a friend or family member asked for help you would be happy to assist wouldn’t you? Then why are you so afraid to ask? I’m seeing more and more the necessity for all of us to reach out in whatever way we can. Mamacita says over and over again, there is no time to waste, we will all need each other in big ways. Share your good and ask if you need help.
What better time to start than the holidays…Thanksgiving is all about sharing…the Pilgrims and the Native Americans sharing crops, food and friendship…and we recreate this celebration yearly by sharing our bounty!
Let’s give Thanks for the abundance we have, share it and multiply it!
p.s. On my wedding day I handed Jim $200, best 200 bucks I ever lost, I guess you know I came home early!by